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Individualism vs. collectivism is a false choice

Wednesday, November 7th, 2012

Some people say the 2012 presidential race was a contest between worldviews. On one side is the collective view (represented by President Barack Obama), and on the other, the idea that the individual succeeds on his or her own (promoted by Mitt Romney).

Think of the sound bites we had on these themes – from Rep. Paul Ryan’s admiration for ultra-individualist Ayn Rand to Obama’s reminder that business people didn’t “build that” by themselves. They had a country behind them.

Superstorm Sandy, as if on cue, blew in to provide us with daily reminders of how we need each other. Driving past a recently bisected tree that had been blocking my daily commute, I know: I didn’t cut that. (more…)

Is marriage becoming extinct?

Thursday, August 9th, 2012

As poverty grows and the gap between rich and poor widens, there’s a narrative developing that women may have taken this equality stuff too far.

Today, 41 percent of births in the United States occur outside of marriage, compared with 17 percent in the 1980s. The decline in marriage leaves parents – mostly mothers – to struggle alone financially. Depending on which study you read, sociologists believe that single parenting accounts for 15 to 40 percent of a family’s likelihood of living in poverty.

Even Isabel Sawhill, who directs the Center on Children and Families for the moderately liberal Brookings Institution, wrote in May that former Vice President Dan Quayle was right 20 years ago about Murphy Brown: Unmarried motherhood is a bad choice. Children who grow up poor more often act up in class, become teenage parents and drop out of high school.

But this narrative implies that the rise of women’s rights is to blame for all these changes – or that it is reversible. The bad news story also ignores the gains arising from the greater earning power of women, the looser divorce laws and the reduced social censure that have enabled so much single parenthood. The rate of domestic abuse has dropped steadily, for example, and women are less likely to commit suicide or be killed by an intimate partner. (more…)

Must the state drag parents into piercings?

Tuesday, June 12th, 2012

Column first published in Newsday.
The New York State Assembly passed a bill last week requiring parents to sign a consent form for their kids younger than 18 who want to have a body part pierced.

I don’t normally react badly to nanny state imperatives; I don’t miss the trans fats in my New York City restaurant meals one bit. But the body-piercing age limit struck me as intrusive.

It happens that the week before this bill passed, my 14-year-old told me she might like to pierce her upper ear or navel. Those seemed pretty tasteful to me, and more reversible than a tattoo.

“I suppose I should act shocked so you won’t take your rebellion phase any further,” I joked.

But this is serious. What right does the state have to insert itself into my job as a parent? Forcing my kids to ask permission would turn casual discussions about boundaries and style into high-stakes negotiations. (more…)

Study: More young women than men consider career important

Tuesday, May 1st, 2012

Essay first published in Newsday.

It looks like Supermom is here to stay. Women ages 18 to 34, in a new survey, rated “high-paying career” high on their list of life priorities. For the first time, women in this age group outnumbered men in considering it important – 66 percent of women, compared with 59 percent of men. The last time this question was asked of this age group, in 1997, the sexes ranked “career” roughly equal in importance (56 percent of women and 58 percent of men).

At the same time, being a good parent and having a successful marriage continued to rank significantly high on everyone’s list. “They haven’t given any ground on marriage and parenthood,” said researcher Kim Parker of the Pew Research Center, which conducted the study. “In fact, there is even more emphasis [on home life] than 10 to 15 years ago.”

The story line over the past couple of decades has been that, for the most part, women would prefer to stay home with children. Those who could afford it were “opting out” of the workplace for home. The recent stir over Ann Romney’s stay-at-home motherhood reawakened culturally conservative voices claiming that her choice is superior for women, and certainly better for kids. (more…)



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